You are Not Alone

Being a mom can feel really lonely in the United States. Moms are way more isolated in our country than in other cultures, because there is this idea that we need to be able to do it all on our own. We don’t have the preverbal “village” that other cultures have where all women help you raise your children. Of course, men (fathers) have come a long way in attempting to equalize the labor of parenthood, if you are lucky, but ultimately women carry the babies and do a lot of the physical and mental labor in raising them. Do you feel alone as a mom in this country?

I did! I had my first son in November 2019, so of course I already had time working against me with COVID happening in 2020. In addition, no one really checked on me after I had my baby. My husband went to work and I sat at home crying everyday while trying to continue working remotely and taking care of my newborn. My parents lived across the country. A lot of my friends either didn’t have children or were busy with their own. I felt so alone!

And I thought, this is not the way motherhood is supposed to be. Where was my village? I was told it takes a village to raise a child. Instead, I suffered in silence from postpartum depression and anxiety and the heavy weight of not living up to societies expectations of me to “bounce back” or be joyful as a new mom. I felt awkward telling other moms how I truthfully felt about losing my old self and not understanding who I really was anymore.

I started The Moms Collaborative, so no mother has to feel alone anymore. I want to build a village for all moms. I want all moms to take a break and fill their cups at one of our wellness events or social gatherings. I want to build a physical village- community center for moms to access all the resources they need to connect with other moms and meet their physical, mental, and spiritual needs as they go through matrescence and beyond.

So please, join the village and never feel alone again!